Don’t Allow Others To Take You Out Of Character....

Sometimes I find myself in somewhat of a dilemma and if I am being honest, it’s because I dislike the ways of some human beings. Simply, because there are some people in the world who can be so inconsiderate, disrespectful and rude to the point it makes it hard for me to want to deal with them. What’s ironic is that I majored in a field that consists of dealing with people of all walks of life. People with serious mental and behavioral problems that sometimes plays a role in how they conduct themselves. I remain professional and don’t allow my dislike for certain behaviors and mentalities to affect how I interact with them, but it can sometimes be a struggle because I know that my job is to help people regardless to how shitty their behavior can be. Anyway, being a professional in the field of mental health, sometimes helps me to understand the fact that not everyone was raised the same, has the same morals, values , experiences and most of all mentality, which accounts for why some human beings can be downright oblivious to their negative behavior and the affects their behavior has on others.


Sometimes when I see someone doing something that is downright wrong to another person, I wonder about what they are thinking in that moment. I feel like a lot of things that happen in the world today is because some individuals lack morals and values and have no regards for who they are hurting in the process, especially if the act was done randomly or with no valid reason. For example, one day my boyfriend and I were driving down Ashland towards 87th and my boyfriend stopped to allow another car to turn so that the driver could get out of the middle of the street. Next thing we know, the driver behind us is honking his horn, beating on his steering wheel and having a whole fit behind us as he sped off into the lane next to us. Now, both cars reach the red light and next thing I know we are all having a staring match, for what felt like forever until the guy turned his head and started talking all kind of junk in his car all because my boyfriend wanted to show a little courtesy to another person. We didn’t know that being nice to someone else would lead to the guy behind us having a tantrum like a 5 year old. At first, I had no clue what happened until I was forced to be in a stare down that I was confused about in the first place. Honestly, it was quite a scary situation, especially being from Chicago where you hear about so many people getting killed on the road by another person because of road rage or sometimes no valid reason at all. I feared this guy would pull out a gun and shoot up our car because if he really wanted to he could have, but by the Grace of God we were protected. He went his way and we went our way. In that moment, I just wanted to roll my window down to talk to him, so that I could understand what made him act in such a manner. To be honest, that probably wouldn’t have worked the way I planned because we live in a world where people barely want to talk about disagreements or come to an understanding.


At any rate, that was just one of many examples of how inconsiderate and disrespectful people can be in this world and as you can see for no real reason. I have to sometimes catch myself from becoming angry with human beings because the only thing that does is make my heart cold, but me being the human that I am I fall short. Hell, we all do, but I just find myself jaded by the actions of others, but I try my best to not react to their behaviors with behaviors that resemble theirs. I have to practice patience, restraint and emotional regulation although, I may feel like screaming to the top of my lungs. However, I’m aware that doesn’t change anything and that only adds extra stress to my life that I don’t need. So, don’t allow others to take you out of character or raise your blood pressure because they have no regards for others. Try to practice understanding for others.
Can anyone else relate to feeling a sense of disgust in human’s behaviors? How do you not allow it to affect your character and your mood?