We have all been hurt before and we have all hurt someone before, so it is natural to go through either experience, but I believe it’s all in the way you handle the situation. Of course, not everyone handles or reacts to situations in the same manner, so what may affect you, may not affect the next person and vice versa. However, I think it’s important to know that sometimes you have to find the strength to not allow what others do to you to have a negative affect on you. I’m aware that when people hurt us, we may be experiencing strong feelings of hurt, anger, sadness, betrayal, loneliness and the list goes on, but I encourage you to learn how to forgive and let your heart and mind be at peace.
When we are dealing with being hurt by someone, we may find ourselves questioning what we did wrong and start to take on ownership for being hurt, which causes disturbance in our peace. I know because I am in a season in my life where I’m trying to heal from all the hurt I experienced with those closest to me and come to terms with the fact that I have to distance myself for the sake of my sanity. It’s been a hard and long road and there are some days when I find myself harboring negative feelings and questioning my character because of failed relationships, but I realize that in order to have peace, it requires me to LET GO.
Personally, letting go is a hard thing for me to do, especially when the hurt comes from all angles and not just from one person or season in my life. A lot of the hurt I feel, didn’t just happen in my adulthood, but dates back to my childhood as well. So, sometimes I’m dealing with hurt in the past and present at the same time, even though I’m aware that practicing the art of letting go would alleviate some of that hurt I’m battling with on a daily basis. That is why I believe that in order to find peace within, you have to practice letting go and moving on or you remain in that same position, HURT.
No, it won’t be easy to just let go of the hold the hurt may have on you because for some of us that hurt is comfortable and it is a normal part of our beliefs, thoughts and reasoning.
What we fail to realize is the hurt that we harbor plays a role in how we function and interact with the world. So, letting go of the hurt may be scary for some because we come to the realization that letting go of the hurt, forces us to have to think and behave in a way that isn’t comfortable for us. It may feel like we are giving up a part of who we are comfortable with. It may even feel like we are giving up our sense of power that we possess because we no longer can operate under the same mentality that hurt forced us to operate under. You may be wondering what that means. Well, for those who may put up defense mechanisms to protect their feelings out of fear of being hurt again, will no longer have to feel the need to put up that shield if they let go of the hurt inside. So, as a result, letting go of that hurt forces us to change how we interact with others because we no longer operate out of fear of being hurt. Therefore, we have healed and moved on from the negative thoughts and feelings we’ve once functioned out of. That is why for some, putting up a defense mechanism may feel like a sense of power for that individual who otherwise powerless in countless situations.
If you don’t get anything from this post, I’d like you to understand that experiencing hurt is a part of life. However, letting go is necessary to your growth process because if you continue to operate out of hurt, you’ll continue to limit yourself to your way of thinking and functioning, which may not be conducive to your growth. Learn to find peace from within because we all need peace in a world where there seems to be so much chaos surrounding us.